January 8 It’s been 2 months since J went into Avita as a resident. I thought I’d feel more relief and be getting more energy back by now – instead, I still feel like I’m wading through molasses, or sailing through thick fog. It’s a strange life, with a partner living elsewhere. On the … More Adrift……then, Land, Ho!
There’ve been lots of disasters in the news – fires, floods, and political upheavals – all the while we’ve been experiencing our own slowly growing disaster here – but in our case, with about as good a resolution as can be. J has never been able to see or hear how the dementia affected us, … More The Lifeboat
Bright New England Fall arrived just on time – windy, cool and clear, and a nice change from the really humid summer this year. Another couple of months have passed and it’s been 3 months now that J has been involved in the day program at Avita, three days a week. It seems to be … More Early Fall 2018
A few months have passed and the main change has been with the day program. A year and a half ago a new memory-care facility, Avita, opened up nearby, which brought with it a good reputation which has actually grown as they settle into our community. It’s a residential assisted living complex specifically for people … More Summer 2018
April 5, 2018 (Posting this a month after I drafted it…better late than never!)) Spring! Although in northern New England it’s more a matter of light than warmth, for a while. A long while….today it was 27f and windy, so I needed long underwear and full winter jacket/mittens/ hood on my morning walk. But then, … More Spring Update
“Most of us saw this hike as an interlude of wild freedom….But complete freedom, it turned out, is not what a trail offers. Quite the opposite – a trail is a tactful reduction of options.” “…To put it as simply as possible, a path is a way of making sense of the world. There are … More Paths & Long Distance Endeavors
I’ve been thinking about how memory loss affects relationship. Conversation is “thinner”, mainly because J’s memory no longer supplies the data to build the remarks from. Certain subjects, usually long-ago events, are the substance of most conversation that she generates. It is the same for me as it is for visitors – she offers the … More Memory Loss and Relationship