The Calm Day

Thinking about the project of maintaining a calm atmosphere at home, and how that is no longer a luxury or a by-product but rather the entire objective these days. I think this has become so much more important as J’s ability to learn new things and to remember how to initiate and do once-familiar things … More The Calm Day


More and more, I am “managing” our lives, and not so much living or sharing them. That’s the aspect of this situation that I really hate – turning into a manager almost more than partner, spouse, friend. I think J feels this change, but doesn’t really see what is going on. She is not aware … More Managing

Little Tricks

Everything in our house takes just “a little trick” to operate – fill the dishwasher cups only half full, and set it on medium wash; put the security bar in the patio door after you close it; put the soap in first, then the clothes in the washing machine; the lock on the french doors … More Little Tricks